In Ephesians, is the warning and the encouragement to be " Redeeming the time, because the days are evil." This word redeeming in the Greek has the idea of ceasing opportunity for good. As was said in my previous post, prayer is true evangelism and seeing an opportunity to share the love of Christ involves praying for wisdom and discernment as is exhorted in James 1:5
Quoting Romans 8:28a ("And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God")
at a funeral, perhaps, as true and encouraging this is, may not be the best opportunity to reiterate.
Some Christians see that it's more advantageous to sieze every opportunity, regardless of the context in which the truth of God is presented. This may be dangerous. When Christians present the truth about God's love, or any truth about God, the presentation should be in accordance with God's character. Back to our funeral example. That verse is an everlasting, encouraging truth about God and promise to his children. Those who are dealing with immense pain and suffering that will last a very long time, upon hearing that, will most likely "write you off" or at least limit their interactions with you and future opportunities to minister will be lost.
Colossians 4:6 " Let your speech be alway with grace, seasoned with salt, that ye may know how ye ought to answer every man."
This command in Colossians is very indicative of that parental advice you got as a child. "If you don't have anything good to say, don't say it." Though very good and Biblical advice, it only refers to the first part of this verse. The first half of this verse, along with "redeeming the time" above, is no small feat and needs the watchful and prayerful discernment which can only be sought from the Lord.
Everyday, there is a slew of reasons for believers to get angered or stressed. (causing a temporary loss of sober thinking). Adding to all this is the word how in Colossians 4:6. This tells believers that their is tactfulness involved in knowing what to say and when to say it. Siezing every opportunity for the glory of God is needful and effective, when the situation allows. (to be continued....)